How PLR Helped Gain Understanding for a Seemingly Hopeless Marriage

One of the most common troubles of middle-aged people is related to their marriage. A lot of people get married prematurely, under pressure from their parents, or just have unrealistic expectations that don’t get realized later in the married life. This results in resentment towards their partners and a feeling of hopelessness. Moreover, the social expectation of people is that troubles in a marriage should be kept between the couple and they themselves should resolve it. This results in people suffering for years, even their whole life in a situation where the answer might be to gain a fresh perspective as to why they are in that situation and what that experience has to teach them. Shifting one’s focus from how a situation is terrible to what one can learn from the experience is the difference between constant anxiety and inner peace.
It is an obvious fact that our current relationship with someone is dependent upon our with them. If our recent past with someone was turbulent, our present interaction with them will also be filled with strife. Over time as you have different opportunities to have positive experiences with that person and you realize that the relationship doesn’t have to be that bad, things start to get better. Now, we understand this pretty well already, but what if you stretch the timeline of this set of interactions to span multiple lifetimes? What if we have a karmic debt to someone who had a particular kind of relationship with us in the previous life and the nature of our relationship with that person in the current life is to balance what happened in the previous life? What if we could get that understanding through experiencing the memories of that previous life and come to terms with the fact that the experience we are having with that person in this life is just a part of the journey we are meant to have with that soul?
Past Life Regression (PLR) therapy helps one access those memories to get the understanding necessary to shift the perspective from that of suffering to that of learning and looking forward to a better relationship with that person.
One of our clients was not able to trust her husband. The husband had cheated on the client for the first 9 months of their marriage and the would from that betrayal was resulting in a feeling of lack and understanding in her marriage. She had no faith in her husband that was making her uncertain about her future and therefore causing her stress and anxiety. She was torn between divorce and continuing in the marriage. She felt helpless, pressured by the external societal norm, where being a divorcee is looked down upon, and also the internal desire to get away from someone who broke her trust at the very start of their marriage. The client wanted some deeper guidance, she wanted to know if she is meant to get a divorce and if yes, she wanted the courage to carry out that decision as she had failed at acting on the decision to divorce her husband many times. If she is meant to stay with him, she wants to get some understanding as to why she has to stay with him. I asked her to clearly decide and think about the questions she was seeking the answers for.

The session started in the usual way of guiding the client to a relaxed start of mind and body. Then I asked her to imagine herself being in a beautiful garden and describe the details she can see in her imagination. This process of relaxation and imagination is to open the client’s internal conduits to her subconscious where she can find the answers she is seeking. By quieting our mind and initiating with an intentional imagination we become receptive to messages that will come into our mind from our subconscious.

After continuing with this process for some time, I asked the client to scan her body for any blockages and if her mind and feeling are guiding her towards anything, surrender to that and follow the sensations in her mind and body. This led the client to access her memories from a previous life where she found herself as a shepherd boy in a village in the New England area in the US. She had the same parents in that life as her current life. At an early age, the shepherd boy followed an elderly man to the city to work in that man’s business. The elderly man liked the boy’s work and rewarded him generously as he wanted to continue working with him for a long time. The shepherd boy’s contributions were so significant that the elderly man even wanted him to marry his daughter. Even though the shepherd boy was in love with another girl and made it clear to the elderly man that he will not be able to fulfill his duties as a husband, he was still pressured into the marriage. This lead to him being unsatisfied with his wife and having an intimate and deep relationship with his secretary. He would be eager to get to the office and barely spend time with his wife. The secretary was always the one he loved and had a good intellectual relationship with her. Going forward in that life the client realized that her wife in that life was actually in love her and would long for her husband to come home but the shepherd boy was determined to be with the secretary and would continue to neglect his wife.

Further in that life, the client’s wife in that life has a baby but its not theirs. The wife also has a short affair with someone else but she decides to raise the baby as theirs. The client also recognized the baby as the present life husband’s ex girlfriend with whom the client’s current husband cheated with her early in their marriage.

As we can see from these memories, there seems to be a lot of connections among the people from that previous life and current life. Although we can never know for certain what all the relationships spanning these multiple lives entail we can consider the possibility that since the client in that life neglected her responsibility as a husband, she has to balance that by having a difficult relationship in the current life. She has to put in the additional effort in this life to have a stable married life in her current life.

The client then saw her last moments of that life where on the deathbed, both her wife and the secretary were present. After her death, she was able to meet with her Masters and they analyzed the her life. In that analysis she realized she regretted treating her wife of that life with neglect and wished she could have given more happiness to her partner. The Msters explained to her that this is exactly what this life is for. To be with her partner and live happily. They asked her to have faith in herself, the Masters and God to provide her with a loving, caring, trustful and romantic husband in this current life. This was hard for the client to accept given her circumstances and therefore I guided here to practice certain types of meditations that will help her build that trust. The client was then able to speak to her husband at a sub-conscious level and decided that she will continue the marriage and live with her husband for life.

The outcome of the session was that the client gained the understanding about her circumstance and came to peace with it. This lead to her living peacefully with her husband, was able to build the trust and was able to live life joyfully.

Cheers to LIFE 🙂

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